What Disney Taught Me About Dating In Real Life

White Rabbit at Disney on Ice

I’ll admit it, I’m really a giant child at heart!

I delight in enjoying childish things with an alarming amount of exuberance. On Friday night, I stepped out my door to be assaulted by huge snowflakes falling. My response to this? To begin dancing in the middle of the sidewalk with my head tilted up, mouth open to catch as many as I could.

So when I was asked to go to ‘Disney on Ice’ as an option for a date, I jumped at the chance, when many would have taken that opportunity to create a human-shaped hole through the nearest door. As I walked the half block from my car to Pacific Coliseum I definitely began to have some hesitation as the crowds of young children ran around with light up wands and full costume. I came up to the front door with my date, turned and smiled at him while I handed my ticket to the host. I took a breath to settle my sudden anxiousness and mentally straightened my shoulders. In other words, I prepared to be completely silly. How often do we really get to let our inhibitions down quite that much?

We took our seats, looked down at the ice just as the lights began to dim. My most beloved childhood characters came out slowly and my chest expanded with the effort of keeping in my delight in check. I was still nervous about letting go (all reference to ‘Frozen’ intended), as I didn’t want to embarrass myself in front of my date. It suddenly occurred to me: I enjoy my childish things, why should I tailor my reactions on the chance that this person could like me more? My internal answer becomes null and void as Mowgli and Baloo skate out on the ice and I’m hopping up and down in my seat, calling out and waving like a madwoman.

Pigs on Ice at Disney on Ice

How can you not hoot at pigs on ice!

I suppose that I could have sat on my hands and hoped that I would garner the attention of my date, but I have only begun to understand that to find both love and true joy in life we need to be true to ourselves. Funny thing is, when I did finally let go, my date started to hoot and holler right along with me. Maybe he was waiting for that same moment to fully embrace his own enthusiasm as well.

Dating at Disney on Ice

Definite points for this date! Sexy knowing that he can laugh and be a kid too!

6 Simple Words: “I’m Just Not That Into You” – Use Them!

I love being single. Meeting new people, feeling that bubble of nervousness, lots of romance and I get to experience this over and over again? Yes, please! Don’t get me wrong: I dream of one day meeting someone who I clicked with and everything that comes with the white picket fence. Until that day happens, however, I’m soaking in every minute of my singledom. This all stated, I have a bone to pick with the dating scene, at least dating in Vancouver: what is so wrong about telling someone you just aren’t interested in them romantically? I’m a big girl I can take it and I expect that you’re an adult and can understand the same when I feel that way.

Dating by Sergey Sus.

Photo care of Sergey Sus.

Everything seems to be going great for a few weeks when, all of a sudden, radio silence ensues. Now I’m not so invested after two weeks that I’m devastated by this. My issue comes from the waiting. I don’t want be wondering why someone isn’t calling, agonizing over it and I don’t deserve that when a simple, “I don’t think we’ll suit” would do just dandy. Maybe this puts me in the minority, but when did honesty, in a relationship or when dating, become passé? I have friends who tell me, “Don’t worry! You just need to learn how to play the game.” Well, I don’t want to play any games. I want to be as open with someone as I can, because if this is going to have any shot at being more than a fling, I need to be.

I’ve had trouble with the other side of this too. Last week, I had a first date dinner with someone I had met and corresponded online with for a few weeks. I knew I was not interested in seeing him romantically and so when he texted me later that night to go out again I answered honestly: “I had fun tonight, and I’d like to get together again, but it would need to be as friends, as I don’t feel any chemistry between us.” In answer to this I received a litany of obscenities and reprimands from this man. All of a sudden I was the “cause of all misogyny and misandry in the world” because I had leaned in during dinner signalling that I wanted to sleep with him. Really?! You’re reading my body language for trying to be engaged in the conversation rather than my ACTUAL WORDS!?!  The worst is that I felt guilty for this, for being honest. Could I have said it in a better way? Maybe, but this man had already told me he wanted a full-blown relationship after one date, so maybe there isn’t anyway to say it that he wouldn’t have taken offence to.

A few months ago I had a fantastic experience following a first date where someone actually was completely honest the way I have been. After asking him on a second date, this man replied that a long-time crush had just expressed interest in him and he wanted to pursue that, and he wasn’t the type of man to see two women at once. Wow! This is what I’m after: conversation that makes me feel like the adult I am, rather than a pimply teenager just starting my dating journey. I thanked him for his candour and we have been friends ever since!

Dating by Guian Bolisay.

Photo care of Guian Bolisay.

Oh Vancouver dating… Can we just put aside all the games and agree to treat people as the unique individuals we are?

Flaunting the Bluesy Goodness that I’ll Be Soaking in at the 2014 Burnaby Blues and Roots Festival!

So just to be a brat, here is a taste of what my day today will sound (and look) like at 2014 Burnaby Blues and Roots Festival at Deer Lake Park!!!  Happy Birthday to me!!!  (Otherwise known as ‘Listen to Me Obnoxiously Flaunt the Blues Day’ or ‘My Rob Jone‘s  Day’)

Some of the bluesy goodness of the artists that I have failed to share earlier this week …

Kicking off the day on the Main Stage …

Steve Kozak – 1:05-1:45 pm on the Main Stage

Purring already and the day has yet to have begun! mmm … mmm … mmm

The Harpoonist and the Axe Murderer – 2:30-3:15 pm on the Main Stage

Have a feeling that these blues boys will have me cracking up!

Love their style!

Imelda May – 4:00-4:45 pm on the Main Stage

Yep!  I’d say, it’s good to be alive today!!!

Bettye LaVette – 5:30-6:20 pm on the Main Stage

This is just plain and simply a bit of awesome!

Big Sugar – 8:30-10:00 pm on the Main Stage

Parlez vous francais?!? Voulez vous le couchez avec …

Looking for me at Burnaby’s Deer Lake today?  Just follow the sound of purring!

2014 Burnaby Blues and Roots Festival Conundrums: Shakey Graves or Wide Mouth Mason

With the 2014 Burnaby Blues and Roots Festival tomorrow, they have left me with one more conundrum to ponder tonight … Shakey Graves or Wide Mouth Mason?!?  You see Shakey Graves takes to the Garden Stage in Burnaby’s Deer Lake Park on Saturday August 9th from 4:45 to 5:30 pm, the exact same time as Wide Mouth Mason jams on the Westwood Stage.  Really Burnaby Blues, you’re going to make me have to choose between these two great acts!?! ^%*%*R^&$!!!

Help me out here!  Shakey Graves or Wide Mouth Mason?!?

Shakey Graves

Can’t help but smile at a man who simply describes himself as ‘gentleman from Texas.’

Don’t be fooled though, he is not actually the strong silent type …

… and oddly doesn’t sound Texan!

Wide Mouth Mason

Really what more can I say then … SMILE!!!

Shaun Verreault is back at the Burnaby Blues and Roots Festival!  This year as a part of Wide Mouth Mason!

So which stage would you pick???

2014 Burnaby Blues and Roots Festival Conundrums: Blind Boy Paxton or Chic Gamine

Next up on the conundrums and decision making that the 2014 Burnaby Blues and Roots Festival has presented me with is Blind Boy Paxton (on the Garden Stage) or Chic Gamine (on the Westwood Stage) Saturday August 9th from 3:15 to 4:00 pm at Burnaby’s Deer Lake Park?!?

Oh why oh why must they torture me so!!!  Do they not understand I want it all!  It is blues and roots after all!

So whom would you choose?

Blind Boy Paxton

California’s Blind Boy Paxton promises to whip us back in time to the days of ‘ragtime, ’20s jazz and Dust Bowl–era blues, delivering them through a dizzying display of virtuosity on guitar, piano, banjo, and lately, fiddle.’

His fiddle playing is certainly something to behold!  Just get a load of this …

And there’s his humour and mannerism from that same bygone era …

He certainly has me smiling!

Chic Gamine

Well as any Canadian knows, those long cold winter nights in Manitoba creates some F&*^^%$# FANTASTIC music!  And it would seem that St. Boniface’s Chic Gamine certainly fit that stereotype!

Described as ‘three angel-voiced girls plus one drummer boy’, I am admittedly questioning the ‘angelic’ with these smokey blues vocals …

Well … I do hear angelic in this tune …

… although I suspect most warm blooded Canadian males, at the hint of the French Canadian gal blues, are hoping these angelic voices come with devil’s horns!

So which stage would you pick???