Compromised
So a little while ago, I poised this question and posted this twitter poll:
I am sure it won’t come as any great surprise that there was a reason for my query and even less surprising that I harbour an opinion. You see, I have a friend that I believe is in an unhealthily controlling relationship (in the lover kind of sense). She has become a shadow of herself. Of course, she doesn’t see this and sees me as the one with a problem as I’m not in a relationship. She told me relationships are all about compromises.
So my opinion? I whole heartedly disagree. I think healthy relationships are accepting and celebrating in one another’s differences. It is our differences that make relationships interesting and help us grow as people. Of course, to accept one another’s differences, communication is key and you can’t always have things your way. You need to do things with your lover in mind.
Photo by Adam Foster
Why does compromise scare me so much? The majority of you, that are likely (unlike me) in a relationship, said compromise is key, yet I continue to dig my heels in the sand and disagree. Compromise scares me, because I see my friend losing herself. She is compromising all of herself and has become a shadow of herself. I see this, not only because I love her, but because I was losing myself to compromise in my last relationship and it terrifies me that if I was still there that I would have lost myself by now. Don’t get me wrong, despite being a Princess from time-to-time, I do understand the need for compromise and don’t always have to have things my way (that’s only the other 90% of the time). Where the danger lies is in when you start to compromise yourself. Too much compromise is a very dangerous thing.
Anyhow, those are my 2 cent.
What Do You Believe Builds a Healthy Relationship?
Got into a healthy New Year’s Eve debate last night on how one should healthily approach a relationship with their lover. Curious to know what all you sexy devils think. Pick the answer that rings the most true to you or click on other and customize your own answer. Looking forward to seeing the results!
Danny’s Love Story
Like most gals I love a good love story. Danny’s definitely makes me smile.
Wishing you all a summer filled with love stories of your own!
Friday Morning Beauty
My beautiful girl, Moon Cherub:
Thought you could all could use a bit of Friday Love from her!!! I know I can (and really this is purely selfish, so I can look at her beautiful face all day).
Looking for Love
After realizing on the Sins of the City Tour a few weeks back that Van City sports a ratio of 2 gals to every guy and more specifically 4 gals to every single, straight guy in the West End, I decided that desperate times called for desperate measures and hit the streets in search of love:
The moral of this story: Move to Chilliwack