My sister, the psychologist, has been suggesting for the better part of a decade that I needed professional help. Now although I love my sister dearly, I am generally not a fan of her advice and have spent the better part of a decade ignoring it. This is a little mulish and hypocritical of me, because it annoys me that she’ll never take my advice and will generally do the opposite of whatever I suggest, and here I am doing the same thing. I am also a huge advocate of people getting professional help when they need to and not being embarrassed by that.
In all honesty, were there times when I could have benefited from counseling? Yes, several:
- When I lost 3 grandmothers in as many years and started to become petrified that the fall brought with it death.
- When an ex-boyfriend tried to kill me. I still don’t like returning to our old town.
So why haven’t I ever seen a counselor?
- Because Bella suggested it and she is generally critical of how I lead my life and the choices I make. On many of these choices, I disagree with her.
- Because I didn’t feel I needed any medication and associated all counseling with psychiatry.
- Because I don’t feel that there are events in my past that have, for lack of a better word, ‘fucked’ me up. All in all I feel pretty damn fortunate.
Well I got a bit of a wake up call on this as of late. Last summer I knew it was time for a change. Time to start getting paid properly and time to stop juggling and start working more on my writing. To please my Dad, I agreed to have lunch with his Business Advisor. Wasn’t expecting much other than a nice lunch. Well this was the most enlightening lunch I’ve ever had. The fellow pegged me in a few minutes flat (get your minds out of the gutter, I am talking about mentally). He gave me a lot of great advice that day that really helped me to focus and work smart.
The problem is that it was one lunch and while it started me down the garden path, I’ve been in need of a guide along the way. Enter Jennifer Priest. Jennifer is a certified life coach. Rather than focusing on the past, as a coach, Jennifer focuses on the present and the future. She helps you to find the path to life you want and to your dreams. This is exactly what I need, especially now while I am making some major changes in my life and trying to figure out which path to take.
This is also the story I tell. The story of a gal finding her way in love and life. So as I continue down this journey with Jennifer, I am going to share my experiences along the way here.