It’s that time of year again where every which way you turn you see hearts, flowers, lingerie, lovey dovey couples …… It always makes me wonder if there isn’t something wrong with me. Not because I’m single, but because I don’t mind being single on Valentines Day. In fact, to be honest I actually prefer being single on Valentines Day. My best Valentines have always been as a single gal!
And NO – I am not delusional – how rude of you for thinking as much. I was just chatting with my friend “the father figure” about just that. I call him “the father figure”, not for reasons of Electra Complex (that would be rather disturbing), but he has always had a paternal sense of protection for me and a couple of our other buddies since we were in university (even though I am one year his senior). I digress – “dear old dad” asked me if I felt-like I was being left behind, because most of our friends are married, was my biological clock ticking, did I feel badly to be on my own. I have to laugh as I know many women would have been horrified by such questions and might have even suggested that they made her feel that much unhappier with their circumstance. So I guess this is where I ask – is there something wrong with me? Once again – no need to be rude – and yes, aside from the obvious. But I could honestly say to him that “I am happy” “I don’t need a guy in my life to make me happy (or a girl for that matter)”. Sure like anyone – I’d love to meet that person that I’d want to grow old with, but I don’t need them to feel complete.
I suppose that is one of the reasons why I am content being single as Valentines Day approaches, but the other reason is that my best Valentines have truly been when I am single. And I suppose that is because when your single everyone you love is your Valentine and there are a lot of creatures in this world that I love. When your single, you remember all of your Valentines and they remember you (probably to make sure you are indeed not moping). I have more people call me to tell me they love me on Valentines when I am single then at any other time.
That’s what Valentines Day should be about – not silly, overpriced presents – but telling the creatures you love (especially the cat) (and not just the one that you are in love with – which hopefully is not the cat) that you love them and if you can, spending a bit of time with them. I started last night with Lola and my Super Geek and am loving the warmth that it brings.
Tell the creatures in your life that you love them this Valentines Day (and of course, worship the cat an extra amount)!
Love Emme oxox
PS Can you guess how much I love you!?!