Got into a healthy New Year’s Eve debate last night on how one should healthily approach a relationship with their lover. Curious to know what all you sexy devils think. Pick the answer that rings the most true to you or click on other and customize your own answer. Looking forward to seeing the results!
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Rob J says
Right. Here’s my two cents.
I think the key to a healthy relationship is good, old-fashioned balance. I think compromise is definitely a key idea in many respects, one being the effort it will take to resist trying to change the other person into the image you have of them. You’ve got to meet people where they are and manage your own expectations accordingly. This is true when you’re meeting someone for the first time, and I think it’s true when you’re working it out with someone with whom you’re in an intimate relationship. When it comes to things we don’t like, I think this comes down to another old-fashioned idea – trust.
There are things about the people we love which we don’t like. Demanding change and withholding affection until the demanded result is rendered seems to be a common reaction. But to me this is just terrorism, which has no place in a loving relationship. Of course, on the other hand, it’s important to be self-aware and respectful, acknowledging those things in our lives which are impediments for growing with another person, taking responsibility for those things, and doing so out of love for the other person as well as for one’s own benefit.
Gosh, that’s easy to write down in a blog comment – much trickier in real life!