How to Teach Your Daughter to Shave Her Legs For the First Time

Getting your daughter to shave her legs is not an automatic task to think of when going over your mental list of things to do to get her ready for high school.  Many girls may have shaved their legs long before this point, but I’m one of those mom’s who has a daughter that could care less about her hairy legs so I had to take it upon myself to let her know it was time.  Either way, at some point in their lives, every girl must shave her legs for the first time.

Shaving is something I do as a mindless act in the shower, so in gearing up for my tutorial I started thinking more about what I was doing.  That was a mistake! Taking the act out of a second nature thing and over thinking it caused me to get razor burn a few times from pressing too hard as I was trying to get a feel for the amount of pressure to tell her to use, and from either going too fast or too slow.

I eventually decided to just Google it, but all that brought up for me to read was sponsored advice from shaving companies saying that the best way to teach your daughter to shave her legs for the first time is to use their razor and shaving gel. Needless to say I abandoned all of that and eventually figured out some strategies of my own.  I wanted to share them with all of you who are just like me and needed the advice I couldn’t find.

Smooth legs in a summer canoe! You want your daughter's experience to be this carefree.

Smooth legs in a summer canoe! You want your daughter’s experience to be this carefree.

 

1. Do not make a big deal of this; for your sake and hers.

Keeping this as matter of fact as possible will save you from emotional trauma.  I think some people might like to make a celebration out of this right of passage, but for me I think it stinks that from now on she will have to shave her legs every day for the rest of her life (except in Winter when we all get a little lazy!). Her showers will now be longer and she will now be self-conscious about her legs and if you can see any stubble, or if they feel soft enough, not to mention any razor nicks.  Keep it simple and it will instead become a very normal part of her life. As an aside, I learned this lesson when I made a big deal with my son about going out to pick his very own deodorant because it was time.  He sobbed about it for hours!  Very loudly too!

 

2. Begin by shaving with an electric razor.

The hairs on an unshaved leg are pretty long, so going at it with a regular razor will take forever as it will get clogged up with hair.  We just used my husband’s razor that he has for his hair. My daughter was a little worried that it was going to hurt so I did a few passes on my own leg first to show her it was ok.

This is the electric razor we used.  She laughed hysterically from the ticklish vibrations it made on her leg.

This is the electric razor we used. She laughed hysterically from the ticklish vibrations it made on her leg.

 

3. Proceed to the shower for the real shave.

The electric razor doesn’t leave the leg perfectly smooth, but it makes for a perfect transition to the real thing.  Perhaps if you have a proper electric shaver made for legs and not haircuts you would be left with a smooth leg and then you could just leave it at that and proceed to this step the next time.  I had her wash up in the shower so her skin would be nice and soft.  I handed her the shaving cream and let her have fun loading her first leg up with it.  After years of shaving, I just use hair conditioner, but with the shaving cream it adds a better protection, an element of fun and it helps her keep track of where she has shaved as she moves around her leg.

This is only for demonstration purposes.  We shaved her leg in the shower, but this shows how the shaving cream prevents you from over shaving an area and getting razor burn.  Just use whatever razor you love the most and choose a shaving cream that's nourishing for sensitive skin.

This is only for demonstration purposes. We shaved her leg in the shower, but this shows how the shaving cream prevents you from over shaving an area and getting razor burn. Just use whatever razor you love the most and choose a shaving cream that’s nourishing for sensitive skin.

 

4. Be prepared to shave for her.

I passed my daughter the razor and told her what to do.  She asked me to do the first leg for her. I admit, I got really nervous inside after my previous botched attempts at thinking about the amount of pressure to use on my own self.  I just took a deep breath, said a little prayer and Voila! it all came so naturally.

5. Teach her to moisturize.

I gave her a big bottle of cream and told her the importance of using it as soon as she got out of the shower to avoid getting a dry-irritated leg feeling.

6. Follow Up.

Quietly take a peek at her legs the next couple of days.  If she hasn’t shaved them again and it’s obvious she needs to, just provide a gentle reminder in the same vain as teaching her how to do it in the first place.

Before you know it, shaving will just be a little added task to her routine.  For me, I’m gearing up to tackle her eyebrows next!

Planning A Dream Garden

I’m having some fun with the new Garden Sketch App, created as a garden design tool. I’ve been inspired to create a visual wish list for a future landscape that I WILL achieve one day thanks to their #DesignThis contest.  They will be holding a contest each week and this week’s challenge was to include a tiled patio space.

Most of you who know me understand that working outdoors with plants and critters is NOT my calling.  This is why you will see that I have made great use of their customized features to create a largely tiled backyard around a swimming pool! Of course, I couldn’t help but add a zip line over the pool for fun! I also love large trees and since moving to California I’ve been dreaming of having a fruit tree.  Our neighbours here have lemon, orange and avocado trees. Though I do realize that having these trees creates further critter battles as you have to harvest your fruit before the squirrels and birds eat them.  The point is, even a gal like me has ‘garden’ dreams.

I love that the App lets you make notes on top of your designs.  I'm already planning the menu for a dinner under my garden lights!

I love that the App lets you make notes on top of your designs. I’m already planning the menu for a dinner under my garden lights!

After all these years, I have yet to be able to do the entertaining at my house that I always envisioned when I thought of the ideal family life.  Our kids are in high school so we don’t have much time left to make this happen before they move away for college.  Seeing this garden plan in full colour has made me decide to put a plan in action!

Do We Attract What We Are Afraid Of?

It’s no secret that I’ve had an interesting array of experiences with critters, but recently things have gotten a little crazy in the spider department. I’d like to know why they like to visit me so much, and not someone who might happen to love them! I’d also like to know why they have to be so ugly, if they were all as cute as lady bugs they could walk around on my wall anytime.

It started a couple weeks ago when I was just waking up, laying in my bed praying.  I said “Amen.” and then opened my eyes to see a spider repelling from the ceiling right above my face! I rolled out of the way with ninja lightening speed and gathered my nerve to look back.  It was a HUGE daddy long leg and it was just hanging in the air right above where my face would have been, as if it was disappointed it no longer had a face to land on.  I ran to get my husband so he could get rid of it and low and behold, it was still just hanging there when he got back.

After that incident we cleaned our bedroom top to bottom, got rid of any clutter, and filled in any cracks in the wall until I felt it was squeaky clean enough to get over the damage to my mental psyche enough to sleep in there again. When I say sleep, I mean with the sheets pretty much over my face, and definitely covering my ears!

We found a recipe for a home made spider deterrent.  Add 5 drops of peppermint oil and a squirt of dishwashing liquid to a cup of water. Spray this along the base of all your walls. The smell is amazing for us, but putrid for spiders!

We found a recipe for a home made spider deterrent. Add 5 drops of peppermint oil and a squirt of dishwashing liquid to a cup of water. Spray this along the base of all your walls. The smell is amazing for us, but putrid for spiders!

Now, just the other day when I grabbed a small pile of clothes that were freshly folded out of the laundry and sitting on my bed, I noticed something rising up off of them.  It was a spider!  A spider had been hanging out on top of my clothes and was trying to make a mission impossible exit back to the ceiling! Unfortunately for him, (oh I pray it was a him and not a female who may have laid eggs on my clothes) my ninja reflex skills squished him with a shirt. Unfortunately for me, I am now sleeping on the couch again.

The pillow says it all!

The pillow says it all!

Fruit Skewers

I was quite pleased with myself when I was able to make the teen girls at my son’s birthday party go, ‘Oh my gosh! Those are SO adorable!’  I’d like to give you the same power by sharing this really simple recipe for fruit skewers.

fruit skewers

I think these would also be great sticking out of a summer drink!

All you need is a watermelon, a large carton of raspberries, a large carton of blackberries, a melon baller and a package of wooden skewers.

Wash all of the fruit well and pat dry.  Cut your watermelon in half and make little balls using your melon baller.  This was my first time using one of those so I suspect you’d be able to do an even better job than me as mine were more like half moons…but they were still loved!

Pick up a wooden skewer and slide it through the fruit alternating between watermelon, blackberry, watermelon, raspberry, watermelon, blackberry.

That’s it!!! Keep them refrigerated until ready to serve.

Feisty Fireworks

When I was a child, my parents would always have big parties for the May long weekend, which concluded with a fireworks show put on by my dad and his friend on our front lawn.  It has been at least 20 years since we’ve done that, so on the occasion of my dad’s 70th birthday, my siblings and I decided to surprise him at the end of his party.

We totally set the scene.  We very quickly and with ninja-like finesse moved everyone’s cars and set up lawn chairs in the grass. Our set up got stalled for a few minutes when we opened the box of fireworks and had our minds blown by the size of them!  Some of the names had us muttering ‘What are we doing?!’ … quickly followed by ‘This is going to be epic!’

Not a very long fuse on this one!  Hence the name I think!

Not a very long fuse on this one! Hence the name I think!

We brought everyone outside, with them still not knowing what was going on, and had the kids do a little dancing around to trick my dad into thinking this was going to be something different.  We then brought out the buckets filled with sand and two huge firework rolls sticking out of them ready to go.  My brother surprised us all and blasted a soundtrack he had recorded for the event.

We had never lit fireworks ourselves before, but we remember our dad packed them in sand, so we figured it must look something like this.

We had never lit fireworks ourselves before, but we remember our dad packed them in sand, so we figured it must look something like this.

My dad’s jaw was wide with amazement and we very proudly lit the first fuse, me holding the flashlight, and RAN! Oh man, that fuse was sparkling and moving so fast that I panicked, screamed like a little girl and dropped the flashlight – but kept running like the thing was going to blow, all the while unintentionally kicking the flashlight with every step! I’m proud to say that my sister had my kids on Skype, who couldn’t travel with me, and they saw the whole thing. Yep … I’m going to enjoy getting teased for that one!

Needless to say the fireworks went off beautifully and were massively impressive. I came to enjoy the thrill of even lighting the fuse myself!

Needless to say the fireworks went off beautifully and were massively impressive. I came to enjoy the thrill of even lighting the fuse myself!

We ended up drawing a little crowd, so our audience got bigger just in time for the grand finale.  My brother changed the music to a swelling instrumental he had planned for this moment.  He lit the final fuse and BAM! The first flaming ball (as they were described on the packaging) went high in the sky.  BAM! The second flaming ball went in a rainbow arc.  I heard my brother yell, “It’s tilting! It’s tilting!”  BAM! The next one went completely sideways just missing my cousin’s car. BAM! The next one hit the ground and bounced up onto her car. This was not just one firework, this was a grand finale firework tube with 30 flaming balls set to go off inside!

Everyone was hollering and ducking.  My brother ran up and pulled the tube straight only for it to fling itself the other way instead.  In the process he had to hurdle it as he almost ended up with his own flaming you-know-what’s.  Now the fireworks were blasting straight into the bush and bouncing off the street.  My brother then ripped the tube out of the sand bucket and proceeded to try and butt it out on the street like a cigarette.  Luckily he found a puddle and got the thing to go out.  At that very moment everyone burst out with laughter and I really and truly had to lock my legs so I wouldn’t pee my pants!  I haven’t laughed that hard in years!  Oh, and yes … my kids were still on Skype!

Thought you might like to see the aftermath of the Grave Digger. Looks like something made for war!

Thought you might like to see the aftermath of the Grave Digger. Looks like something made for war!

Home fireworks have come a long way since we were kids.  My dad’s face lit up, just like ours used to when he put on the show for us, making this hands-down, the best birthday present.  Of course, the other take-away from this experience is to always pack the dirt down firmly around your fireworks so they don’t go sideways!