What to Have When the Power Goes Out

This is not a practical guide about what a gal needs to have on hand to survive a power outage, but rather a discovery of a couple fun items that will make the darkness more fun!  At this time of year, rain, snow and ice storms often find many without power for hours.  We were in that situation just a few days ago.

We used candle light to walk around the house and make sure everything was switched off so that there wouldn’t be a big surge when the power went back on.  When we got to my daughter’s room, we realized that the disco ball she has hanging in there is battery operated, so we turned it on of course!

A dark power outage night sets the scene for a perfect disco party!

A dark power outage night sets the scene for a perfect disco party!

Perhaps the best part of this spontaneous fun was our singing and sound effect music making.  We could have listened to music on our phones, but we wanted to conserve our batteries in case the power was out for a long time and we were unable to charge them.  Such fun would never have happened on a random school night if we had electricity!

We did still have to take care of all our chores though, and one of those tasks involved getting the kids clean and showered. Now, normally a power outage would be the perfect excuse for a candle-lit bath…but not in our house…we have an LED shower head that produces a light show!

The light changes every few seconds to red, purple, blue, green and yellow.  Self made music acoustic noises definitely take the experience up a notch!

The light changes every few seconds to red, purple, blue, green and yellow. Self made music acoustic noises definitely take the experience up a notch!

Needless to say, we each got to continue the disco party in the shower when we had one, and after that fun; we’ll be turning the lights off every time we shower from now on! It really is about finding the little joys in life.  I was jealous of my neighbour at first, because he has a generator and had lights back on in his house within a few minutes.  We were irritated in the beginning; scrambling to find candles and feeling like this ruined our plans for the night, but as we discovered the fun we could have, I wouldn’t change the gift of that dark evening for anything!  After everyone was showered we all sat around the table and played a board game by candle light.  The kids went to bed saying, “We need to do this more often!”

What Disney Taught Me About Dating In Real Life

White Rabbit at Disney on Ice

I’ll admit it, I’m really a giant child at heart!

I delight in enjoying childish things with an alarming amount of exuberance. On Friday night, I stepped out my door to be assaulted by huge snowflakes falling. My response to this? To begin dancing in the middle of the sidewalk with my head tilted up, mouth open to catch as many as I could.

So when I was asked to go to ‘Disney on Ice’ as an option for a date, I jumped at the chance, when many would have taken that opportunity to create a human-shaped hole through the nearest door. As I walked the half block from my car to Pacific Coliseum I definitely began to have some hesitation as the crowds of young children ran around with light up wands and full costume. I came up to the front door with my date, turned and smiled at him while I handed my ticket to the host. I took a breath to settle my sudden anxiousness and mentally straightened my shoulders. In other words, I prepared to be completely silly. How often do we really get to let our inhibitions down quite that much?

We took our seats, looked down at the ice just as the lights began to dim. My most beloved childhood characters came out slowly and my chest expanded with the effort of keeping in my delight in check. I was still nervous about letting go (all reference to ‘Frozen’ intended), as I didn’t want to embarrass myself in front of my date. It suddenly occurred to me: I enjoy my childish things, why should I tailor my reactions on the chance that this person could like me more? My internal answer becomes null and void as Mowgli and Baloo skate out on the ice and I’m hopping up and down in my seat, calling out and waving like a madwoman.

Pigs on Ice at Disney on Ice

How can you not hoot at pigs on ice!

I suppose that I could have sat on my hands and hoped that I would garner the attention of my date, but I have only begun to understand that to find both love and true joy in life we need to be true to ourselves. Funny thing is, when I did finally let go, my date started to hoot and holler right along with me. Maybe he was waiting for that same moment to fully embrace his own enthusiasm as well.

Dating at Disney on Ice

Definite points for this date! Sexy knowing that he can laugh and be a kid too!

6 Simple Words: “I’m Just Not That Into You” – Use Them!

I love being single. Meeting new people, feeling that bubble of nervousness, lots of romance and I get to experience this over and over again? Yes, please! Don’t get me wrong: I dream of one day meeting someone who I clicked with and everything that comes with the white picket fence. Until that day happens, however, I’m soaking in every minute of my singledom. This all stated, I have a bone to pick with the dating scene, at least dating in Vancouver: what is so wrong about telling someone you just aren’t interested in them romantically? I’m a big girl I can take it and I expect that you’re an adult and can understand the same when I feel that way.

Dating by Sergey Sus.

Photo care of Sergey Sus.

Everything seems to be going great for a few weeks when, all of a sudden, radio silence ensues. Now I’m not so invested after two weeks that I’m devastated by this. My issue comes from the waiting. I don’t want be wondering why someone isn’t calling, agonizing over it and I don’t deserve that when a simple, “I don’t think we’ll suit” would do just dandy. Maybe this puts me in the minority, but when did honesty, in a relationship or when dating, become passé? I have friends who tell me, “Don’t worry! You just need to learn how to play the game.” Well, I don’t want to play any games. I want to be as open with someone as I can, because if this is going to have any shot at being more than a fling, I need to be.

I’ve had trouble with the other side of this too. Last week, I had a first date dinner with someone I had met and corresponded online with for a few weeks. I knew I was not interested in seeing him romantically and so when he texted me later that night to go out again I answered honestly: “I had fun tonight, and I’d like to get together again, but it would need to be as friends, as I don’t feel any chemistry between us.” In answer to this I received a litany of obscenities and reprimands from this man. All of a sudden I was the “cause of all misogyny and misandry in the world” because I had leaned in during dinner signalling that I wanted to sleep with him. Really?! You’re reading my body language for trying to be engaged in the conversation rather than my ACTUAL WORDS!?!  The worst is that I felt guilty for this, for being honest. Could I have said it in a better way? Maybe, but this man had already told me he wanted a full-blown relationship after one date, so maybe there isn’t anyway to say it that he wouldn’t have taken offence to.

A few months ago I had a fantastic experience following a first date where someone actually was completely honest the way I have been. After asking him on a second date, this man replied that a long-time crush had just expressed interest in him and he wanted to pursue that, and he wasn’t the type of man to see two women at once. Wow! This is what I’m after: conversation that makes me feel like the adult I am, rather than a pimply teenager just starting my dating journey. I thanked him for his candour and we have been friends ever since!

Dating by Guian Bolisay.

Photo care of Guian Bolisay.

Oh Vancouver dating… Can we just put aside all the games and agree to treat people as the unique individuals we are?

How to Teach Your Daughter to Shave Her Legs For the First Time

Getting your daughter to shave her legs is not an automatic task to think of when going over your mental list of things to do to get her ready for high school.  Many girls may have shaved their legs long before this point, but I’m one of those mom’s who has a daughter that could care less about her hairy legs so I had to take it upon myself to let her know it was time.  Either way, at some point in their lives, every girl must shave her legs for the first time.

Shaving is something I do as a mindless act in the shower, so in gearing up for my tutorial I started thinking more about what I was doing.  That was a mistake! Taking the act out of a second nature thing and over thinking it caused me to get razor burn a few times from pressing too hard as I was trying to get a feel for the amount of pressure to tell her to use, and from either going too fast or too slow.

I eventually decided to just Google it, but all that brought up for me to read was sponsored advice from shaving companies saying that the best way to teach your daughter to shave her legs for the first time is to use their razor and shaving gel. Needless to say I abandoned all of that and eventually figured out some strategies of my own.  I wanted to share them with all of you who are just like me and needed the advice I couldn’t find.

Smooth legs in a summer canoe! You want your daughter's experience to be this carefree.

Smooth legs in a summer canoe! You want your daughter’s experience to be this carefree.


1. Do not make a big deal of this; for your sake and hers.

Keeping this as matter of fact as possible will save you from emotional trauma.  I think some people might like to make a celebration out of this right of passage, but for me I think it stinks that from now on she will have to shave her legs every day for the rest of her life (except in Winter when we all get a little lazy!). Her showers will now be longer and she will now be self-conscious about her legs and if you can see any stubble, or if they feel soft enough, not to mention any razor nicks.  Keep it simple and it will instead become a very normal part of her life. As an aside, I learned this lesson when I made a big deal with my son about going out to pick his very own deodorant because it was time.  He sobbed about it for hours!  Very loudly too!


2. Begin by shaving with an electric razor.

The hairs on an unshaved leg are pretty long, so going at it with a regular razor will take forever as it will get clogged up with hair.  We just used my husband’s razor that he has for his hair. My daughter was a little worried that it was going to hurt so I did a few passes on my own leg first to show her it was ok.

This is the electric razor we used.  She laughed hysterically from the ticklish vibrations it made on her leg.

This is the electric razor we used. She laughed hysterically from the ticklish vibrations it made on her leg.


3. Proceed to the shower for the real shave.

The electric razor doesn’t leave the leg perfectly smooth, but it makes for a perfect transition to the real thing.  Perhaps if you have a proper electric shaver made for legs and not haircuts you would be left with a smooth leg and then you could just leave it at that and proceed to this step the next time.  I had her wash up in the shower so her skin would be nice and soft.  I handed her the shaving cream and let her have fun loading her first leg up with it.  After years of shaving, I just use hair conditioner, but with the shaving cream it adds a better protection, an element of fun and it helps her keep track of where she has shaved as she moves around her leg.

This is only for demonstration purposes.  We shaved her leg in the shower, but this shows how the shaving cream prevents you from over shaving an area and getting razor burn.  Just use whatever razor you love the most and choose a shaving cream that's nourishing for sensitive skin.

This is only for demonstration purposes. We shaved her leg in the shower, but this shows how the shaving cream prevents you from over shaving an area and getting razor burn. Just use whatever razor you love the most and choose a shaving cream that’s nourishing for sensitive skin.


4. Be prepared to shave for her.

I passed my daughter the razor and told her what to do.  She asked me to do the first leg for her. I admit, I got really nervous inside after my previous botched attempts at thinking about the amount of pressure to use on my own self.  I just took a deep breath, said a little prayer and Voila! it all came so naturally.

5. Teach her to moisturize.

I gave her a big bottle of cream and told her the importance of using it as soon as she got out of the shower to avoid getting a dry-irritated leg feeling.

6. Follow Up.

Quietly take a peek at her legs the next couple of days.  If she hasn’t shaved them again and it’s obvious she needs to, just provide a gentle reminder in the same vain as teaching her how to do it in the first place.

Before you know it, shaving will just be a little added task to her routine.  For me, I’m gearing up to tackle her eyebrows next!